Depends on what sort of fantasy you are looking for, and if you have limits on period. Lord Dunsany, for example, tends to eschew blood-&-guts violence (though once in a while he can have a quite nasty understated and off-stage sort of thing such as "The Hoard of the Gibbelins"), while William Morris' fantasy novels are almost entirely about exploring the characters and the worlds they inhabit. James Branch Cabell's ironic fantasies are indeed fantastic and richly written and, though he too can surprise you now and again with a bit of grim material, he never dwelt on the violence or death
per se.
I'd suggest looking up a list of the old Ballantine Adult Fantasy series, and checking out various of the books which were published in that set; or the Newcastle Forgotten Fantasy series, for that matter. These are older stories (with a few exceptions in the Ballantine), and present a wide range of fantasy, but there is little of the type you seem to be trying to avoid.
Here's the Wiki article on the Ballantine series, with a list:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ballantine_Adult_Fantasy_series
ditto for the Newcastle:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Newcastle_Forgotten_Fantasy_Library
If you've not read them before, I would also suggest Moorcock's Dancers at the End of Time series which, though often having quite serious points, are generally quite genial and light in tone, wildly imaginative, and simply a great deal of fun:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dancers_at_the_End_of_Time
L. Sprague de Camp (both with and without his wife Catherine) wrote quite a lot of humorous fantasy, and the series of stories he did with Fletcher Pratt about Harold Shea are (rightly) considered classics in this particular field. (
The Carnelian Cube is rather less successful, though still interesting, and
Land of Unreason is an absolute gem; especially if you can find one of the reprints with the original Edd Cartier illustrations.) Some of Avram Davidson's fantasies also fall into this category. And then there's The Tsaddik of the Seven Wonders, by Isidore Haiblum, which is a rather unique sort of thing itself....