Victoria Silverwolf
Vegetarian Werewolf
There are extreme feminist also . . .
Indeed, although I think this is an extremely tiny group, greatly blown out of proportion by anti-feminists. The most "extreme" feminist of importance within speculative fiction, for example, is probably Joanna Russ, and I think her writings, often quite angry, are legitimate responses to what she perceives as an oppressive, patriarchal society.
do I have to eviscerate myself in order to write feminist SFF?
Certainly not. I don't think that mainstream feminism is anti-male at all.
What does that term "feminist" mean to you?
Excellent question. See my first post for my self-description as a "liberal feminist." Although I suspect there are many issues about which you and I would disagree, since I pretty much fit the stereotype (at least within American politics) as a bleeding-heart liberal, I believe that there are many about which we would agree also.
Moreover, what type of statement, (because the story would be a statement,) would you make?
There are many statements one could make through one's fiction. There are many issues relevant to feminism which can be explored through speculative fiction: gender roles, reproductive technology and its influence on society, and so on.
As a male, what statement would I make about society and myself by writing feminist prose? Is this an exclusive clubhouse being built or can I join in with dignity?
You could certainly choose to make whatever kind of a statement you feel is best expressed in your fiction. (One of the many types of feminist philosophy is "libertarian feminism," which would seem appropriate for you.) I would be delighted to see more men write about issues relevant to feminism.
Incidentally, Victoria, while I'm here, we try to discourage consecutive posting so that members have one long post when replying to others, rather than several shorter ones. I think this is different from other sites so it's a bit confusing, but Chrons does tend to do things differently! If you want to quote several posts (and there's no need to, just referring to the other posts is enough) then there's a multi-quote button -- the one with a pair of quotation marks and a + sign to the right of the ordinary quote button. Press that on every post you want to quote, then the ordinary quote and they will all come up in order, and there you are!
Thank you for pointing that out!