I wasn't trying to say its a place I'd like to live. I just don't see "Brave New World" as being on the same level as "1984". At least they don't take pleasure in torturing people who think differently.
The examples of problems you gave for the world of "Brave New World" could actually be applied to the real world we live in (which is admittedly dystopic as well). In first world countries, we take for granted that we have career and recreational choices - assuming we have no disabilities or financial problems which hinder us. But *many* people do have their lives laid out for them due to being born into absolute poverty, war zones, or disease-ridden places.
And all over the world, including the "first world", people commonly turn to drugs and alcohol to cope with the stress of not having the life they want. In a sense, soma could be said to be an advanced form of that since at least it lacks side effects.