Bob, if you are complaining about asterisks and other marks that are used in place of letters in words that would otherwise be censored, I'm sorry, that is not the same thing as using the ampersand in place of a whole word.
You are not being singled out. Plenty of people have had stories removed for going over word count. This includes several of the moderators. We all regret that his has happened to you.
When it comes to content -- what you call dirty talk -- that was a situation that escalated over time, and it was making moderators uneasy because we strive to be a family friendly site (I am in complete sympathy with you there) but it was difficult to decide at what point we should be cutting it off, since anything that might be called censorship is not something we do lightly. There was a lot of discussion before we decided what to do. Once we decided, we did take action: announcements were made, letters were written. Reaching that decision took awhile, because it involved making judgement calls, unlike a clear-cut decision about word count. And we did it between Challenges, rather than halfway through, so that for each individual challenge everyone was playing by the same rules. If you feel that in this month's challenge we are allowing someone to break a specific rule that others are forced to observe in this month's challenge, let us know. Because if that were to happen, of course it would be unfair.
Cross posted with Hex. Sorry. (I take too darn long composing some of my posts.) I think everything has already been said. If we've missed anything, contact us privately, please.