"Utopia" is just a society where everyone is free to do largely as they please and have a high standard of living regardless of how they spend their time. I would agree that attempts in history to have a utopia are just mass hypnosis, not actual free and rich societies. They're communes.
There is going to be a time, not so incredibly distant from now, where technology allows people to make their own stuff, there's plenty of space to live, personal security will be near absolute and illness or even aging have been cured. You can call living like that whatever you want, but it isn't socialism, capitalism, authoritarianism, patriarchy or any of the other systemic causes of disparity that put people in conflict and despair. Certainly, some people will try to F it up for everyone else, but with less shared infrastructure, no real economy and real physical security, those people won't get very far.