The idea of female inferiority is a recent one. Our problem is that we're too shortsighted, equating the Industrial Revolution society of Victorian England with the millennia that preceded it. Nothing could be further from the truth. Look at the women in the Canterbury Tales. They are formidable. The prioress has the equivalent power of a bishop.
Before industrialisation, women and men contributed more or less equally to the economic output of their communities. Women did all the dyeing, weaving, clothesmaking, bottling, preserving, etc. They also helped with the harvest, sowing and milking. Men did the heavy lifting like ploughing, cottage repairs, metal and wood work. And warfare (women are quickly dead on a battlefield). There was mutual dependence hence mutual respect. Jobs were determined by capabilities, not preassigned gender roles.
Industrialisation changed all that, taking the women's jobs away from them and giving them to men in factories. Women were reduced to a combination of nanny/housewife and their social status plummeted as a result. This created the artificial idea that women were radically inferior to men, quite helpless in fact, and needed men for everything. A woman's job was to look pretty and raise children. No wonder women eventually rebelled against this stereotype.
The San preserve the old mutual dependence and female inferiority is quite foreign to their egalitarian society. If you want to resolve the man vs woman issue then get rid of industrialisation and go back to a pre-industrial life in small communities. The problem will disappear like magic.