Actually, currently a lot of evolutionary scientists believe there may have been several events in which life began. The idea is a great source of contention in the academic field.
Your mentioned bacteria (which incidentally is therefore not a bacteria, or it would be related to all the other bacteria, and thus, us) is currently thought to be a second life origin. All life finds arsenic poisonous, besides that one, suggesting it is a different source.
In the same way, the lack of silicon based life here is completeley plausible through evolutionary concepts. In the early days of life (a time spanning a couple of billion years or so), competition between microbial life forms which leave no real fossil evidence could have wiped them out, leaving nothing for us to find to know about them. Alternatively, by the chances of life coming about, they just might not have happened here.
You say there is no evidence of a 'battle for supremacy', but in the scale of the history of life we only have reasonable quantities of evidence for the last small part of it. Cambrian organisms, for a long time believed to be the first, are now believed merely to be the earliest preserved due to rising abundance and the expansion of hard parts as a common feature. The Cambrian was only 500 million years ago. Who knows what happened in the two billion before that?
Of course, I don't claim silicate lifeforms are likely to have been around, but they may have been, and I see little reason to rule them out as a potential thing to find elsewhere.
Nor, in fact, do I see any reason to believe that forms of life or sentience which we have not considered can't be out there. For a long time the greatest scientists in the world believed that organisms could not survive in the deepest oceans, but we have found extension communities around black smoker vents. In a similar way, no one expected to find life clinging to cracks in the rock five kilometres down in the Earth's crust, but find them we did in the deepest mines we have ever dug.
Almost the point and purpose of life is to expand, to innovate, and to spread into other environments which are yet uninhabited. From single marine cells Earth now has a population that can fly as high as a jet aircraft and burrow as deep down as humans can mine. That's all done without a shred of sentience. Humans have managed to get to the moon, and soon hope to have dug down to the mantle. If all this can happen in the few billion years of our own Earth's existence, then I find myself sceptical of any theory that proposes that the galaxy is otherwise void of life.