And the idea that the Nation Organisation for Women has "long campaigned for rape to be treated as a form of simple aggravated assault, instead of a crime nearly akin to murder" sounds ridiculous if true (where is your source? I'd be interested to read it, because surely that's not allowed?
). How can a group which supposedly supports women's rights brush off one of the most serious crimes?
The reason that the National Organization for Women wants rape to be treated as a form of assault, rather than a sex crime, is that (theoretically at least) the victims sexual history would not be used at trial, whether or not she was asking for it by some action (wearing provocative clothes, getting drunk at a party, walking down a dark street at night by herself, etc.) would also not be at issue. For instance, nobody would think of suggesting at trial that someone who was mugged was to blame for what happened because he/she was in the wrong neighborhood. The same should be true for rape.
One could argue that the whole purity of women thing means there's an underlying (if not often expressed) belief that for a good, pure woman, death is better than the dishonour of rape, which is clearly silly. Death is death and rape may give you nightmares but it is not (normally) a Fate Worse Than Death.
But don't the vast majority of fantasy novels in which these rapes occur take place in the kind of settings (pseudo-medieval) where that would be the prevailing attitude? A woman who has to carry the burden of shame that society imposed on her would have to be affected by it all of her life, wouldn't she?
One thing that I used to hate (would still hate, if I saw it happening these days) was that in stories where there was a sadistic female antagonist she had
invariably been repeatedly raped as a young girl. I do know that a lot of sexual predators and serial killers
were raped as children, and while I am not trying to excuse what they have done later, obviously a desire to show that they have this power over others as a way of dealing with their own feeling of powerlessness is a factor. Nevertheless, I think that this common trope was a reflection of a lingering idea that women are morally ruined by being raped, are beyond redemption, and it would be better for everyone if they were dead. This may have been my own interpretation of this type of characterization, but the whole thing always made me queasy.
The way that rape is so casually treated in many books these days -- the MC rapes countless faceless women and goes on with his life unscathed -- bothers me because I have heard people excuse it by saying that in a lawless society this is what men will do. (If the argument was that people who had been hardened and dehumanized by their experiences would feel free to give in to their worst instincts, that would be one thing, but that's not the argument that was being advanced.) I think this is insulting to men: the idea that they'll go out and gang rape women any time law and custom don't forbid it. You know, boys will be boys. And by extension, if most men will do this given the opportunity, and any time they think they can get away with it, then the female is to blame for putting herself into situations where this can happen. Considering the prevalence of acquaintance rape, "situations where this can happen" would include working late at night with your boss when everyone else has left the building, going to a party and getting drunk (or being perceived to be drunk, because someone has slipped something into your drink), going to a party where star athletes from your high school or college are present, and joining the armed services.
Which brings me to another point. Someone above said something about rape being common on the battlefield. (Sorry, I can't find the quote, so I don't know who said it or exactly how they said it.) This reminds me of the idea that female soldiers shouldn't be allowed anywhere near the line of battle because if they were captured they would be raped (most of the time, in the US military, women aren't allowed on the front lines, but they do allow women to be helicopter pilots). Well, it turns out that women in the military
are in great danger of rape, but not from the enemy, but their own comrades -- and especially superior officers. There is an epidemic of rape in our armed services (the statistic I've read was 1 out of every 3 women in the military). Since these incidents are not happening on the battlefield, where men have the adrenaline flowing, etc. etc., clearly this crime is being committed in cold blood.
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