The Women of Wonder anthologies are definitely worth getting. I've reviewed both the 1995 and 1974 versions - see
here,
here and
here - and my review of
More Women of Wonder will be appearing on SF Mistressworks this coming Wednesday. And
here's my review of
Millennial Women.
I have -- or rather had, as I don't have the complete set any longer, part of it having vanished during one of my moves -- the original Women of Wonder books and, as you say, they are definitely worth getting. In the post to which you so kindly responded, I was referring to the 1995 versions, which I really do need to get -- and again, I thank you for the information on this.
Back on topic... I'm not sure why you'd assume someone new to the genre likes war films. Seems a weirdly... specific liking. Personally, I see no reason to suggest sf which caters to the prejudices of our mythical newbie, since science fiction is supposed to challenge people. Why give them something just like the stuff they already read? How does that demonstrate what sf has to offer? How would that convince them to stop reading whatever it is they're reading and swap to sf?
If I may put in a thought or two.... I think the first question goes to the idea of a "gateway" book to introduce people to not only sf, but any field about which they are curious, but not yet committed to exploring. Giving them something which is related to interests they already have is a good way to get them to look further and learn more, and eventually broaden their interests -- as an example: if they are interested in stories about war, then there are any number of good sf books using that as a theme or basis for a story (even if the actual thrust of the work is about something else); should they like that, they may seek out other books by the same author and if, as is not infrequently the case, that writer has a variety of types of stories to their credit, then it may get the new reader to explore a wider assortment of what sf has to offer.
Which, I suppose, goes toward a hint of a response to your second question -- in itself, it doesn't, but it may prove a way of introducing that variety. And I'm not sure the point is to get them to switch, but simply to be aware that science fiction is a much broader mode than most people -- even most fairly well-read people -- think. Let's face it, any field which can cover things as diverse as Neil R. Jones' Professor Jameson series, Ellison's "I Have No Mouth and I Must Scream", Slonczewski's
A Door Into Ocean, and Connie Willis'
Doomsday Book, let alone all the other things sf does, can seem a bit overwhelming to those used to genres which are a bit more restricted (as a general rule, at least) in scope. Why attempt to get them to "stop" reading that which they already enjoy, instead of simply adding sf to the list....?