The context of the conversation was in regards to Spring's mention of a role model for teenage girls.
Sorry, but the context for my comment was a role model in an adult show that teenage girls watch. That's incredibly important, actually. If we only give teenagers female icons in teenage shows and then the lead series continues to represent only male leads, then that's even more damaging (in my view) than never showing a female lead anyway. It says to them -- and this is a big thing, I think -- you can be equal until you're an adult, and then it's the men leading the way. Because of course, you're going to have kids and then your life is going to be subsumed into theirs while the man can go off and be a macho hero.
The BBC did the Sarah Jane Adventures, which was very well done and which both my kids loved. It didn't mean she was ever equal to the doctor, in his various (male) incarnations.
The one sci fi show I am delighted I introduced my kids to is Blake's Seven, where the leader of the galaxy was a woman, and many of the key characters of the seven (particularly after Blake left, and there was only a de facto leader) were women, and weren't scared to look like women (particularly Servalan) and act like women. Yes, it's dated, but it gives a better female role model - by which I mean Servalan btw (IMO) -- than Doctor Who is giving in the 21st century. Except that Cally simpered like the worst female character I ever seen. And all the ladies had a propensity to kiss Avon in his leathers (even Servalan), which was downright scary. Y'know, I can see the show's limitations.
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But given what I've just summed up as the male-female power relationship in B7, it's pretty scary that I don't see Dr Who having moved much beyond that. Sure, we have feisty companions, who probably don't kiss a middle aged man just cos he has leathers (although I still go ooooh, at Paul Darrow's voice
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