So true, Boneman.
But it is the parts of me that are not the writer (the wife, the mother, the person who has bills to pay, the person with a leaking roof that needs replacing, etc. etc. etc.) that gets pretty frustrated with the publishing industry!
All writers are people pouring their heart, soul, energies, time into creating a product which is exceedingly difficult to sell and will in all likelihood never receive a return. We do it because we cannot not do it, but the practicalities of that become so wearing! I do wish that agents and publishers would remember that sometimes in how they deal with us! To them I suppose we are just a mass of potentially lucrative crops that they can harvest or leave to rot at their leisure. But that's not what we are!! We're real people with very real, practical everyday needs and problems and bills to pay!
After all "a woman must have money and a room of her own if she is to write fiction"...
I neither have money nor a room of my own (I have the bottom end of the kitchen table, if that helps....) but I write fiction But I freed myself to do so by stopping looking for an agent or big publisher, going a blend of indie and small publisher and am much the happier for it. So if you feel you're writing for no return and the soul is being sucked out of you - change what you want from writing and that sense might ease.
@Serendipity (don't laugh...) this normally little whizz-bang where's my blaster sci fi writer has a literary fantasy coming out next year. Go figure.... (Add me to the list, then, as I'm not sure I'd rule out doing a literary sf if the right idea came along.) But the Irish setting suits literary work well...
What is literary fiction is a real oddity of a question to answer. For me, it's a feel - that the words have to be meaningful as well as just drive the story. But I might be way off beam....