APurpleCow, First of all welcome to the Chronicles network. My apologies for not doing so last night. We do want and we do welcome all opinions. Second, thanks for thanks for taking my post in the right spirit. I'd had too much to drink when I posted last night. And I'd just gotten home after coming from a planning meeting for a fund raiser for a friend who has been in a horrible accident. She's the sweetest, most charitable, most empathetic, most fun loving person in that circle of friends... everyone just adores her. My emotions are a bit raw from the actuality of bad things happening to good people. And rereading my post this morning, I confess that I vastly oversimiplified the issue. Thanks for being a mature poster and not responding with flames.
That being said, we all have taste preferences. At previous points in my life, ASOIAF would not have appealed to me like it does now. It was Eddard's death that convinced me that GRRM was a serious writer telling a serious story. Eddard is comparable to Duke Leto in Dune or Agammemnon in Aeschylus' ancient Greek tragedy Oresteia. All three men are the obvious protagonists at their stories openings, yet all three are murdered fairly quickly. It's left for Orestes, Paul, and Robb to avenge their fathers and take up the mantle of leadership for the nation. Only Paul was successful in both of these undertakings. Robb's death meant a total departure from Aeschylus' and Herbert's storytelling... it told me that GRRM was going beyond them, that he was writing a new third layer to this father/son tale of justice.
I fully expected Robb, after Eddard's death, to become the heroic fulfillment of House Stark. This is what Paul Atreides did, this is what Lyam did in Feist's Riftwar Saga, it's what happens countless times in mythology and fantasy. I singled out Jordan in my previous post, but I could have selected Feist or Eddings or McKiernan or others. But after Rand and company were chased three thousand miles by orcs, wraiths, ancient terrors, wolves, crows, bandits, armies, and spies only to face off with the Dark Lord himself and no one died, I felt betrayed. I felt the fantasy was too fantastic to be believed. At least Tolkien killed off Boromir and Gandalf (for a little while). At least Brooks provided enough menace from the Dark Lord to kill Allanon and Keltset. At least Alexander's Dark Lord was evil enough to kill Coll. Even though Martin had the good sense to kill off Eddard, I was shocked when Robb died without becoming the hero of the age.
Happy endings are hard to come by. If you view a list of Roman Emperors, you'll see that most died of unnatural causes. Most were murdered, executed or killed in battle. Harold Godwinson, Leonidas, Richard the Lion Heart, William Wallace, Horatio Nelson, Martin Luther King, the Maccabees, St. Paul, St. Peter, Joan of Arc, Manfred von Richtofen, Athahualpa, Abraham Lingcoln, and Crispus Attucks all died violent and tragic deaths. Mozart, Aaliyah, Buddy Holly, Pocahontas, Otis Redding, Bobby Sands, Bruce Lee, Keith Green, Hank Williams, and Drazen Petrovic all died untimely deaths at young ages. When we're dealing with people out to change the world or at least trying to be the best in their fields, I think that fairy tale endings are not so realistic.
ASOIAF is the most realistic fantasy I've read. Knowing that Westeros is a dangerously violent place keeps me from being able to predict the story... and I find this enjoyable. The greater the danger, the greater the hero. When the menace is real, the triumph is sweeter.
Again, I realize we are discussing preferences in storytelling. My comparison to Tom and Betty was condescending, I apologize. It may be like discussing the foul odor/pungent aroma of Limburger cheese and durian... Malaysians and Belgians will never agree that their own favorite is stinky or that the other tastes good.
Thanks for letting me set forth my views.
Thanks also for posting here. Any dissenting view usually get shouted down by fanboys like me... so hang in there.