Yes, rape is a reality. Yes, it happens. Yes, racism, homophobia, violence, moral cowardice, corruption, despicable leaders, etc all these things exist and have causes and consequences. But to deal with these topics so nonchalantly, so offhandedly, and refusing to fully deal with the actual consequences of some of these topics (namely rape), grimdark fantasy (and its authors) are making just as unrealistic fantasy pieces as anything Tolkien ever wrote. Focusing almost exclusively on straight white men who are borderline sociopaths, or worse, is just as unrealistic as elves, dwarves, and dragons. Having straight white men dominate the setting story after story is just as unrealistic as any magic. The glaring absence of strong, independent female leads who are more than simply objects to be used and thrown away (or dealing with them as fully formed characters in their own right, rather than the flimsiest of cardboard characters) is just as unrealistic and hackneyed as any D&D novel.
Because I like to help out I'm going to distill a few questions and statements of objection out of this lot. Then I'll invite you to agree or disagree that they are statements you support &/or questions you might want answered. And if you do, I'll answer/address them as best I can.
> Having straight white men dominate the setting story after story is just as unrealistic as any magic.
You feel that this type of unrealism is, unlike the equally unrealistic magic, objectionable. This is an objection you have to grit.
This could prompt two questions:
i) is gritty writing like that and if so why?
ii) did you, Mark, use that kind of setting, and if so why?
> Yes, rape is a reality. Yes, it happens. Yes, racism, homophobia, violence, moral cowardice, corruption, despicable leaders, etc all these things exist and have causes and consequences. But to deal with these topics so nonchalantly, so offhandedly, and refusing to fully deal with the actual consequences of some of these topics (namely rape), grimdark fantasy (and its authors) are making just as unrealistic fantasy pieces
You feel that it is objectionable not to examine the consequences of murder/rape/descrimination etc
which could prompt the questions
iii) does gritty writing do that and if so why?
iv) did you, Mark, do that, and if so why?
I've no wish to put words in your mouth or to blunt/deflect or obscure your issues - I'm just trying to condense them into something more concrete. If you don't feel these are fair questions then I won't address them.
& I would of course answer ii & iv on the PoT thread Brian kicked off for specifics.