I don't know why you feel the need to be so vitriolic.
Apologies, English is not my first language so it's rather common that I misinterpret the talk by native speakers or come off not quite as I intended myself.
To me it seemed like an accusation that this community as a whole is against the gay scene yet basically approves every other sex scene (be it Viserys, Theon or whoever). But if it was directed more towards Slyde then I understand.
Of course there's always these problems with adaptation. You grow fond of the material you get served with first and then any alterations seem like blasphemy. I'm sure the directors only have good thoughts in mind and they're not trying to go for a mindless show that keeps their audience attracted only with sex scenes.
Right now it just seems that the ONLY way to tell the bits that took a lot of subtext, side dialogues etc in the book, is by giving the "minor" characters a sex scene. It's just starting to get a bit ridiculous. I wholeheartedly agree that there had to be some way to bring in Loras and Renly as characters as they really seemed to be too much in the background and invisible (plus some really weird scene of Renly acting like a teenaged girl in the woods while hunting with Robert).
Personally I don't have anything against homosexuality, I've seen other shows like Spartacus use even more explicit gay material but right now I'd have preferred the subtlety that Martin had in the books. The shaving scene might have been enough to make the viewers think "Wait...are they gay?" and maybe give some more clues later. I personally don't see why it had to be followed by a blowjob (and I also don't see the need for any nude scenes with Ros).
And as far as I remember some bigger hints about Renly's and Loras' relationship also came after Renly's death in the books. I find it more enjoyable to find stuff out later or when you're given clues. The show seems to be using another pattern though (which would be just making it 100% clear for every person tuned in).
Also the matter whether explaining their relationship is crucial to stick to the plot is debatable, I'm not saying it's not needed but I don't also find it THAT important to the whole storyline (considering other major subplots that feel handled rather hurriedly).
As you said you haven't seen the show yet so who knows...You might feel otherwise when you see it.
(not in a homophobic way of course, i'm talking primarily from the viewpoint of storytelling)
